The Emergence of Adults Who Have Never been Scolded! - Difficulty in Scolding Someone and the Value of being Disciplined

Recently, I was shocked to encounter a young staff member who had never been scolded before. Has home discipline by parents been neglected with the recent drastic changes in the family environment and the loss of traditional values? More and more young people appear to have never been scolded by their parents. Of course, it seems that they were never scolded by their school teachers either.

There are a number of societal causes that may be contributing to this problem. First, the increasing number of nuclear families and divorced single-parent families has resulted in a lack of diversity of thought within the family. It is also assumed that more parents cannot take time to look after their children and minimum home discipline has been left untouched while both parents are physically and mentally taxed from working. In other words, it seems that more children are not able to have the opportunity to receive discipline from their parents. In addition, single-parent families not only find it difficult to take the time to put more effort into their children, but parents also seem to spoil them and leave them to their own devices. Single parents don’t have the chance to scold their children because they think it’s fine as long as their children study well. Parents barely have a chance to scold their children but they still do everything for them from cooking to doing their laundry. These children don’t even help with the family business or clean the house.

In addition, I have heard about the endless number of cases where teachers are harassed and bullied by their students in schools, and sometimes it results in teachers committing suicide. Is this a kind of harassment, and should we call it “reverse-power harassment”? This may be an extreme example, but the reality is that even in schools, scolding students is now something that is less valued, and we must be concerned about the trend of students having too much freedom.

Whether parents are neglectful or dote on and spoil their children, it can be difficult in today’s family environment to expect parents to scold and educate their children with love when necessary. Likewise, it seems that the act of teachers scolding students itself is gradually becoming taboo amid the rumors of possible classroom disruptions across the country. It must be said that education is now in a state of crisis.

Thus, it’s not hard to imagine the reactions of these young employees when they are scolded in the workplace after joining a company. There mainly are three types of reactions. The first is that they start to cry or are depressed because they have never been scolded before and feel fear. This one has been increasing recently. The second is the opposite: The person has never been scolded before, but is awakened by the scolding to learn something new and to feel a little gratitude for being scolded. This case is rare, but in reality, there are young employees who are grateful for being scolded. They say they have grown as a result. The last one is those who are unresponsive and uninterested. I frequently see young people just casually react by saying, “Oh well, I got scolded. Whatever.” It’s bad that there seems to be little reflection by these types of employees.

The world really has become a boring place. Parents do not educate their children, schools do not educate their students, and many young people who grew up in such an environment are now part of the workforce, and the companies are not happy about it. How can the company be left with the responsibility of educating them? There are hardly any bosses who even have the energy to scold younger employees anymore. My how the times have quickly changed. To keep up with the times, we will have to value connections in another dimension, in the metaverse, or the virtual world, rather than through everyday common courtesy, humanity, and interpersonal connections in order to cope with promoting DX implementation, regardless of the tenuous human relationships. I just scolded myself by telling myself that I cannot do my job if I keep thinking like this, but I am now thinking about how difficult it is to train employees to come to appreciate the value of being scolded.